I agree wholeheartedly, and I want to add something. I think “effortless” = “cool” idea exists for a reason. A professional dancer, who practiced for hours for the same dance can make dancing look effortless. To look like you are not trying at all, you have to try very hard first. Now we want to look like that, but not put in the work for it. If I dance, it won’t look cool, but it’s fine, because I dance to have fun, not to compete in a dance-off. If I care a lot about something, I’ll try very hard to someday look nonchalant while doing it. You cannot start from effortless, you can only end up there. If you want to be cool as fuck, you should get up and do the thing awkwardly every chance you get until you get very good at it. And in the meantime, you’ll have a lot of fun!
I absolutely love this essay with every fibre of my being. I could not have found it at a more appropriate time and I’m grateful I came across it. Your writing is phenomenal and the ideology is something I’ll be caring with me for a long time. Thank you so much for putting this out there and I hope you are able to exist freely too! Wishing you a life filled with so much love that ‘nonchalance’ has no place in it :)
Ahhh this means the world to meeee. Funny how words have a way of finding us exactly when we need them. I’m so glad this piece met you at the right time. Also wishing you nothing but a life so full and rich that ‘aloofness’ never even gets a seat at the table.
Teared up reading this because it hit something I've been trying to change about myself for a long time. Nonchalance is so ingrained in me that expression feels completely alien. Sometimes I have trouble even finding emotions to begin with
I agree wholeheartedly, and I want to add something. I think “effortless” = “cool” idea exists for a reason. A professional dancer, who practiced for hours for the same dance can make dancing look effortless. To look like you are not trying at all, you have to try very hard first. Now we want to look like that, but not put in the work for it. If I dance, it won’t look cool, but it’s fine, because I dance to have fun, not to compete in a dance-off. If I care a lot about something, I’ll try very hard to someday look nonchalant while doing it. You cannot start from effortless, you can only end up there. If you want to be cool as fuck, you should get up and do the thing awkwardly every chance you get until you get very good at it. And in the meantime, you’ll have a lot of fun!
I absolutely love this essay with every fibre of my being. I could not have found it at a more appropriate time and I’m grateful I came across it. Your writing is phenomenal and the ideology is something I’ll be caring with me for a long time. Thank you so much for putting this out there and I hope you are able to exist freely too! Wishing you a life filled with so much love that ‘nonchalance’ has no place in it :)
Ahhh this means the world to meeee. Funny how words have a way of finding us exactly when we need them. I’m so glad this piece met you at the right time. Also wishing you nothing but a life so full and rich that ‘aloofness’ never even gets a seat at the table.
Teared up reading this because it hit something I've been trying to change about myself for a long time. Nonchalance is so ingrained in me that expression feels completely alien. Sometimes I have trouble even finding emotions to begin with
Great post
i will definitely come back time to time to refresh my thoughts with this masterpiece, i lovedddd it!!!
Yes yes yes!!! Obsessed with “exist freely”
Yesssss!!!!!!!!!! Nonchalance absolutely needs to stay in 2024!!!!
honestly love the style you're going lol
thank you hahaaa i had too much free time on my table lately. read it and let me know your thoughts anh!!!!
love the post :))) i like the rawness in this, it feels like you're yelling your lungs out